There are many problems that you can just assume that you know the best answers. I have known for quite some time that we all bring our own biases into everything we do. If a doctor was asked how to solve any problem, they would end up with some sort of medical solution. What we need to do is diversify and stratagise in how we can work together to solve problems that we dont know the solutions to.

I have a friend who I know brings themself into a problem, and no matter what, I am going to bring these vews with them. Persuing to understand each others points of view in order to understand and find the middle ground between us. But the relationship didn’t start here. Through the times of continuous problem solving and persuing resolutions to assertain a shared goal. We built a relationship of trust and respect, and both value each others opinions. These people are hard to find, and it’s not easy to build a relationship to the stage where you can say anything. The knowledge that they want to understand you first and work with you to find middle ground knowing that you will disagree on some topics. But the fact you disagree on some topics is a good thing. It’s what you decide to do with that disagreement that matters.

I remember this as I had a conversation with a friend surrounding a potentially touchy subject. We dont know each other very well and so exposing our own views was tough. Through building a friendship, this will only grow, and the question of can you be honest and set aside your differences in order to work together is still to be understood.

Picking up difficult and touchy subjects is a dangerous line for anyone. I originally picked up this post to put out my views and stories of a particular touchy subject. However, I can’t do it justice on my own. There is another side to the conversation that I probably won’t ever fully grasp. I dont identify as fitting this identity yet highly respect it. There is also so much social pressure that even if I did decide to change my identity, there is a whole lifetime of learning and understanding of this identity i can only hope to achieve.

Friendship is the only way to start moving forward. Sometimes, we all know the solutions, or we know that we dont hold the solution alone for. Making friendship more important than the difference of opinions for that we can bear with one another and seek to find common ground.